A couple of years back, one morning, like other mornings, I suddenly realized: As I sat in a rather dangerous state where I felt I was wasting my life. When I looked out the rainy window of a New York bus, I watched the years go by, slipping away right. “What do I want in life?” I asked myself. I was in a state of utter dilemma, and I knew I should be happy. I listed the things that made me happy. I have a hardworking husband. He was handsome, tall, dark, and I loved him.
At this point, I immediately began taking on a systematic study on happiness. It took me over a year to get on test-driven wisdom, taking tips from pop-culture, scientific studies, and as well as aged wisdom.
Here a few things I learned:
The 10 Ways To Be Happier
1 Don’t start with Depth
When I started the happiness project, I quickly realized that instead of spending an entire day of meditation or answering deep identity questions, it is a lot better to start with the necessary knowledge like going to bed at a decent hour, and eating healthy. Sleep and Food hugely supports a happy lifestyle.
2. Avoid Drowning Anger Till Sun-Set
I have always strictly expressed dissatisfaction as soon as possible to ensure I have a peaceful night’s rest. However, research shows that the concept of angry catharsis is merely nonsense. Expressing anger to small incidents will only leave a bad impression on your overall well being.
3. Pretend not to listen.
Your feelings follow your actions. Whenever I feel depressed, I will consciously try to act happy as much as I can. When I am angry with someone, I think of something that brings a smile across my face, and my mood is immediately relieved. This strategy is very effective.
4. Understand that you must do all the things that are worth doing.
Challenge and novelty are the key elements of happiness. Surprises will stimulate the brain, and successfully solving unexpected situations will produce a strong sense of satisfaction. People who do new things (play games, go to unfamiliar places) are happier than those who insist on a rather monotonous routine.
5. Avoid Treating The Blues With A Treat
Often, the things I choose as “delicious dishes” are not good for me. The excitement only lasts a short while, but inside, out of control, and other negative consequences deepened the lice’s taste.
6. Buy happiness.
Our basic psychological needs require us to love and be loved as it makes us confident and boosts satisfaction with our work. We also want to have a high level of self-control. Money does not automatically meet these requirements, but it does go a long way to help. I also learned how to spend money to maintain a closer relationship with family and friends. Improve health; work more efficiently; eliminate the root causes of stimulation and marital conflict; support essential causes, and have more experience.
For example, when my sister got married, I was crazy about the best digital cameras. It was expensive, but it brought me a lot of happiness when I presented it to her.
7 Don’t Be Insistent On The Best
There are two types of decision-makers.
• The Satisficers.
They determine whether they meet your standards. When you find a hotel or favorite meal with the desired flavor, you will be satisfied.
• The maximizer
They look to make the best decision. They do not decide until all other options have been considered and looked carefully through. This has a myriad amount of advantages and as well as disadvantages.
8. Exercise Frequently
Psychologically, I know it works, but how many times have I said to myself, “I’m too tired to go to the gym”? Exercise is one of the most reliable indicators of emotions. Even a 10-minute walk can inherently enhance my outlook.
9. Stop Berating.
I know nagging isn’t particularly good for no reason whatsoever. However, if I stop, I think my husband will never get to do anything in the house. On the contrary, I did get a significant happiness boost when I quit my consistent nagging spree.